I really appreciate all the responses and support. Truegritter....My W is 32. There has not been an event that W can point to nor one that I am aware of. I assume that W is having some flashbacks or nightmares as this time of year has always been an issue. Our son is not at the age that the child abuse occurred. I have been working on trying to detach myself and focus on me. It has been difficult and I have failed on a few days. But the last 4 days have been good. When she texts I reply optimistically and stay positive. I haven't been calling or asking about what she may be doing. I've been cautious even to ask about her day. You pin pointed the massive blow with her Mom. I may be the only person that knows how much that hurt her. You also pinpointed that she is still in the victim stage. I believe that she is aware of it too. I know her focus has to be shifted to survivor.
Thank you for all the terrific information. I will start to read the post and the other links that were posted as homework. Thank you.
