Here's a question that has been rolling around in my brain for the last few days:
My W was friends for years with a co-worker (the group would go out to drinks every few weeks, etc) and I've known they have been friends, but it was nothing more. This past fall, I believe the friendship turned into an EA (I'm almost positive due to my previous attempts at snooping, but never confronted her so I can't say with 100% certainty). Post bomb drop (and numerous discussions we've had since the bomb), she says she doesn't want to get separated/divorced, she doesn't want to be with anyone else, but she still isn't in love, blah blah blah (I know how much of what she says I should believe) and yes I am getting to the question.
The W and the OM have since taken jobs in different departments (different buildings actually) but still at the same company and I know they still IM (I saw the icon on her computer last night when I walked by her). Can 2 people go from friends, to EA (but not PA), and back to friends?? Can the marriage recover if they literally are just really close friends now (in my simple little brain, I believe she ended the EA to try to work on us) or does she need to eventually get that influence out of her life for us to really get this thing back and have our marriage be re-born??
I truly appreciate all the time and efforts you all do for this board and those of us struggling through.
M36 W35 S8 S5 M11 T17 ILYB Bomb: 01/25/12 Still living in the same house, sharing the same bed, trying to make it better
What the caterpillar calls the end of the world, the Master calls a butterfly."
