My Sitch/any better ideas than going dark?

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I own up to the mistakes in my marriage and have tried to atone for them in every way possible. There are pro's and con's to every situation, and I have righted my wife and stepchildren way more than I have ever wronged anyone.

There is is the 'yeah, but' again. If it weren't for W an SC, you would be perfect. I see that because I understand it, I was also a victim of everyone else and couldn't they just see how wonderful I was, the sacrifices I made...all for them.

But it was all for me.

DBing is not as hard as you might think. When the S tells you they are done and walk out the door, our job is to say God-speed and LET THEM GO. The next thing we should do is take our own inventory and get to work on ourselves.

The R may be saved, it may not be but at least we have not squandered a great learning opportunity.

We will come out the better person. But we have to let our false-self go.

That's the hard part.