Is filing for D a 180?

[luvmyhubby]

So today i thought i would post an update.. I dont come to this site very often but feel it has given me the most support i could have ever asked for. My divorce was final 11/22/2011... After that I didnt get any child support until Feb. Recently had to file for bankruptcy in order to keep my house and my ex is now engaged to the OW and living with her. Oh and she was a stripper when he met her..

Now that all of that is out of the way I can say that I have not been this happy in a long long time! All of the things whirling around me that seem jaw dropping dont seem so bad. One of my good friends recently told me that I was the strongest woman she has ever known.. Funny thing is that I think the same about her! She was able to save her marriage..

I now am in control of my life and my children's lives as much as I can be. While my ex is still lying about the color of his shirt so to speak .. I am getting my independence.. I found a journal the other day from 2009.. It was a huge eye opener as to how many stressors i had on me and was furious about. My entire journal entry was about how my ex was not helping or being the man i wanted.
I in no way regret trying to save my marriage.. However the loss of my marriage has also given me closeness to GOD, the ability to be a better mother and the ability to be happy with myself.

So i now recommend these books to just about anyone.. As well as the counselors! I tell anyone i talk to that it will either save their relationship or save them in general.. Either way it is worth it!

So my days arent perfect and neither am I but I am thankful for every day and Divorce Busting!