Well I hope it don't rain in Houston for your sake.
Quote: Don't focus on the 30 days, don't focus on the divorce.
It's hard with it looming ahead so threateningly...it sets me on edge. I find myself trying SO HARD cause it is there. I can go for quite some time without it getting to me (3 weeks) but when my h starts in on how I can't do this and that right it hits....I think to myself how can I fix this in x number of days and the pressure on!
I guess I'm just trying too hard. I need to have fun and quit worrying about it....I mean really I can't make him come back. I've changed so much, I'm 35 pounds lighter, I got a new wardrobe, I'm fun, I got lots of friends...I mean I have so much more going for me than I did pre-d...I need to be more confident about ME. And if h don't come back well then I'm marketable m material, right?
Quote: he's yelling and screaming, don't get drawn in.
I'm doing lots better here...I don't get mad at the same time like pre-d. I try to talk it out when he's yelling but since that isn't working next time I need to walk away (like I did when he came to the office). I'm also going to let him know from now on when rude behavior offends me.
Quote: Later, think about what he was yelling about, and see what you can do different to prevent his rage.
Yes, the MC mentioned this...that some of my retalitory behavior is causing h's rages. Like my not returning his calls right away, not listening to him talk, defending myself, avoiding him, etc. The MC said I need to learn the basic rules of marriage (ie, spouse top prority (return calls immediately), spouse needs to know where you are, be very clear with expectations) and to play nice (sometimes the right thing to do will be the hardest that's a clear indication of what needs to be done).
Quote: Learn what you can do to be a better wife for him, but don't be a pushover.
I agree that I've been a pushover...so fearful of d that I've let my h walk all over me in the way he talks to me. Continued counseling will help with the being a better wife bit...cause my h ain't helping me there, he don't talk .
Quote: dart tournament, which means a hotel ballroom with a bar.
Hope you win BIG $$$! And have lots of fun.
The MC actually got h and I tickets to the football game on Sunday! Think I may go to the movies tomorrow just to get out and be busy and of course get a good laugh. Ben Stiller's new movie is out this Friday.
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