I thought I had my wife agreeing to go see a MC with me, her quote is I don't think it will work for me but what do you want to do
It is very hard when the other person in a relationship doesn't want to or can't invest in the M anymore.
It took her a long time to get to feeling like this.
Any ideas as to how she got there?
Any ideas of why she doesn't to be married to you anymore?
Getting her to agree with you right now about anything should not be your focus.
It should be figuring out what you did in your M that contributed to its demise.
It should be looking in the mirror. Are you the man you aspire to be?
Not what your W thinks. YOU?
Originally Posted By: Craig
My wife had a affair 4 yrs ago, we were seperated for 6 weeks then she came back, the usual, she didn't love me thought the grass was greener on the other side, left then realized that I was better, she begged me to take her back and I did, we put what hapened behind us and didn't take much about or go see a C, 1st problem.
What were her reasons back then?
Did you talk about it?
Did you truly forgive her or was there an underlying sense of seething anger that might have made her feel she could never overcome her mistake?
Originally Posted By: Craig
I know the other guy is filling the emotional need that I wasn't, now I just go a different way.
Maybe. Maybe not.
Could be there is void you may never be able to fill.
She is behaving badly and has behaved badly in your M. Any idea why?
Look some of this may be on you. You seem a reasonable guy and you said you have tried to make changes when you recognized what you felt needed to change in you.
Do you want to save your marriage?
Why?
If you do, then do it for you.
Make changes for you.
Answer my questions if you want they are for you. If you want to put your answers here then we can try to help you.
My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am
