your son is in trouble at school and the school said they wanted you two to present a united front.
The school was disappointed/confused about the message it sends that you two were not able to comply.
Maybe put a FEW sentences about what YOU are committed to doing and leave it at that, But it still strikes me as not being more than 5-10 lines in all.
OR it'll sound like you are telling her how to parent.
And even though she's off base here,
I assume this was a nerve you struck when you began telling her how to parent (to her, I think that your new approach probably seems like too little too late. All we know though, is that it isn't gelling well)
Ask the school for suggestions too. Let HER know what THEY tell you. The more she thinks the "authorities" view you as the more involved parent- perhaps
the more she'll want to show up with you.
Be mindful of the tone you take with her. Something tells me it really rubs her the wrong way.
But your son IS in trouble and that's the priority now.
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