Those of you who've followed my sitch may recall that my h has always refused to discuss finances with me.
Lately, he's been pressuring me to buy out the lease on our car - as he insists I, alone, have to pay for it. We have 2 cars and, quite serendipitously, he has taken the one that is paid for, while I seem to be responsible for the one on which $50K is owing....
My response has been to say: "Let me know my financial situation - liabilities and debts - and I can make a decision on whether I can afford it or whether I need to get a cheaper car".
But he steadfastly refuses to give me ANY financial information about our personal and business situation. He says that he "Just can't talk to me about it".
Anyway, when he told me, yet again, today that I needed to make a decision about the car, I said, again, that I needed to see some financial info.
He then handed me a lawyer's letter proposing that he takes 40% of my superannuation, and pays no more of our house mortgage, although he maintains a half share in the property.
The letter stated that I didn't need assistance to pay the mortgage because the house could be rented out at an amount that would cover the monthly mortgage payments.
So, basically, if I have trouble re-paying the mortgage that I took out to save his failing business, I can just live on the street, with our 2 kids, and rent the place to someone else!!!!!
Basically, he is only proposing to pay half of the kids school fees and to slug me for any other assets I have.
The back story is that I am older than H and had a house, a car, a job, and a healthy bank balance when we met. He had nothing.
I now have a big mortgage, big credit-card debt, no car in my name, and no savings. And H now wants to take my superannuation when I am about 5-7 yrs away from retirement.
To say I was devastated would be an understatement. And this from the man that I would have trusted my life to.
I understand that this is just a lawyer's letter but the way he presented it - as "I am willing to be fair and only take 40% not the 50% I'm entitled to" - makes me sick to my stomach.
I think he is definitely delusional, someone quite seriously 'other' than the man I once knew.
His mother is in despair and my parents would happily tear him to shreds.
