Forgiveness

[2thepoint]

I don't think the clarifying note scared her off 2tp. Why would it? 25 suggested it, and she's pretty insightful. Anyway, it's done now. I hope she'll come around.

I'm just thinking that when you said you didn't mean for you to to meet in person, that when an opportunity came up to meet in person regarding your son, she bailed. It just seems too coincidental. That's all

kat suggested I send another note. What do y'all think of the following.......


Ex, look...we have two kids that are suffering greatly under the current circumstances. Even though our relationship ended, our responsibility to these two great kids did not. We do not have to be friends, but we do need to be the adults here and behave as parents.
The kids can not continue to play us off of each other. We need to agree and set boundaries for their behaviour. It is what any responsible parent would do. 
That means putting our kids best interests above our own, and finding a way to form an amicable relationship with each other as co-parents. 
Let's set aside any differences we may have and focus instead on meeting the needs of our  kids.
Let's not disparage each other to our kids, nor let our kids speak disrespectfully about the other parent. 
Let's agree on boundaries and behavioral guidelines for raising our kids so that there's consistency in their lives, regardless of which parent they're with at any given time.
Let's communicate actively with each other about all aspects of our kids development. 
Let's recognise that kids are prone to testing a situation and manipulating boundaries and guidelines, especially if there's a chance to get something they may not otherwise be able to get. 
Let's compare notes with each other before jumping to conclusions. 
Let's focus our efforts on what our kids need most. 

I'd ditch all the "lets do this and lets do that language". It comes across as a little demanding and repetitive. Instead perhaps try something that is more in the form of a question and throw in a few temperature checks that seek her buy-in. Something like....

Let's Can we set aside any differences we may have and focus instead on meeting the needs of our kids.

or

Let's I'm hoping we can communicate actively with each other about all aspects of our kids development. What do you think?

You might also want to consider changing up the communication medium. for example, if you always communicate via email, how about a hand written letter sent through the mail. That would be a switch, don't you think?