Hey there! Was just reading through some of your posts and noticed no one had posted to your thread in awhile, so here I am!
From your description, it really looks like you are zeroing in on some important behaviors that produce positive outcomes. I'd make note of those for future reference and keep poking and prodding until you find the gusher that produces the muthalode!
It sounds like you are getting great advice and affirmation from Laurie your DB coach. I don't know if there is more than one Laurie, but I may have had the same one and I agree she is great. As a matter of fact, I've got 3 paid for but unused sessions left with her that I should schedule. I've been saving them for a rainy day and I see some storm clouds heading in my direction.
Anyway, it really sounds like you have things under control. Keep up the good work and keep on posting!
Take care!
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Every rough spot adds to our emotional constitution. -Barney Fife