Quote: Well, there is a big pause before the hanging up this is where I usually beg him not to..and in some surprise at my NOT doing it he has to follow thru on this threat and hangs up.
Excellent, well done Cindy, you let him steam himself out and you did not force the convo any further. He noticed something different in you and wasn't quite sure how to handle it...GOOD
Quote: I call him back at 9:15pm to say it was unfair of him...blah, blah.
Bad move, you should have left well enough alone. The mere fact that you picked up the phone to call him lets him know he's under your skin. The idea is that no matter how much he complains, its not going to bother you. When you called him back, you started to defend yourself which of course never works, you just exacerbate the situation. Trying to explain yourself obviously is a no no with this guy, you're better off allowing him to be "right" when he's riled up and leaving it at that. Next time leave well enough alone, just validate his anger, tell him thanks for calling, talk to you soon or see ya around, have a good day. DONE.
Quote: He's finding everything wrong with me! I can't get anything RIGHT.
Well, maybe you need to take a long hard look in the mirror and ask yourself if you deserve something more out of a mate than what you're putting up with..When somebody cares about you the RIGHT way, this type of behaviour does not continue to happen.
