7 Years in. Time to give up ?

[DavidA]

I suppose trying something else is a way to put it. But I have zero expectations that she will ever come around and see the light. At any rate I hope if it ever does happen that by then I am happily involved with someone else and I won't betray that relationship to go back to her. Obviously I am a faithful spouse. Even when I don't have to be ;-)

I stuck it out a long time. Some say that makes me a little off and in need of professional help. That is their opinion and I respect that. Everyone has an opinion, and believe it or not there are valid points to most everyone’s opinions. I do not take negative comments as criticisms but try to find the wisdom in someone else’s way of thinking.

Obviously we do not all think alike. We do not all have the same intellectual and family backgrounds. What is right for me is wrong for you. But do not condemn me or anyone else if their thinking is contrary to yours. It is merely their perspective on life and that is never wrong because it is unique to you.

However, the person you are going to share your closest relationship with has to be on your same wavelength of thought and acceptance. If not you end up like me. Someone once asked me my definition of cheating. My answer: When you spend more time with someone else other than the one you claim to Love. Hence my signature line which came from 2 years of counseling. "You vote with your feet." In other words you can tell me anything you want but where your feet carry you and you spend the most time is where you want to be.

I could carry on for 10 more paragraphs but I won't. I will be back and will start offering my opinions on other threads. I guess I have seen more than most albeit on the down side.

Peace and Love to all! DavidA