Thanks for the encouragement about the emotions h is showing. He is very controlling....if I behave a certain way things are great. It's when I show any kind of need that he gets bent out of shape. My God, even the 'why don't you call me' bit hits home....how many times did I call and not get a call back!!! he don't see THAT but when I do it...wow s**t hits the fan!
Quote: What was y'alls relationship like just before the divorce hearing when he asked for an extension?
Prior to the hearing, I was with him at every opportunity, coming over when he called, initiating dates, calling him, etc. Then 3 weeks prior he finally said 'get away from me', 'you are getting your d', 'i can't trust you' etc...so I went totally dark and then at the hearing he suddenly turned and wanted the extension.
Quote: Third, I think you should stay the course. It may be rocky at first because he has to deal with the fact that the rules have changed. My reasoning - being close to him didn't help, so you have to try something different.
It is beyond me how to approach this so I appreciate your input here. I have to admit that this is the most I've seen him do since the hearing Nov 17. He actually spoke up and asked/demanded things from me. But the thing that hurts is the fact that he doesn't ask how he can be a better h to me...it's all about what he wants right now.
Today is h's birthday....I'm going to have the kids call him this evening to wish him well. I was thinking of calling myself but don't know what I would say....I'd probably get to find out that he's going out to party on 6th with his 'friends' not his w. just like last year!
just like last year!
