I admire your response. You are showing him that you strongly don't agree with his choice, and you are offering him an alternative (counseling). For your kids' sake, I hope he agrees to the counseling. The fact that he offered you a S instead of a D, I think is a semi-positive. It seems as though he's not ready to jump into 'singlehood' with both feet.... S papers can be ripped up and life goes back to 'normal', Ds are harder to undo (and more expensive!)
My H and I have been 'working' on our S papers for almost 3 months now.... so this process isn't quick. They've actually been in his hands for the past month, and he hasn't done anything with them.
I really hope you find some comfort today, even if it's just in a warm cup of coffee
M-31, H-31 T-9, M-7 S-6, s-20mth sep 8/1/11 ILYNILWY 11/29/11 Creating separation papers. Discover H has feelings for BFF, she does too 1/11/12 H moves out 1.20.12
