Yesterday I called h at 3pm to let him know that s11 forgot his homework...to call me so I could meet him to give to s. H calls at 9:11pm...I was at a wake until 10:30pm. Between that time, H calls 3 more times. I do not return his calls since I got in so late.
Next morning H calls at 7am on house phone and then again on cell phone. I don't answer...what is the point...s can't do homework now anyway. So I get on line to shoot teacher an email to ask for more time due to the cross wired h and I had Sunday.
Get off line and prepare to attend funeral.
H calls twice while I'm at the funeral. I call his apartment at 1:30pm AFTER funeral to leave message. I say Sorry have not returned your calls, been very, very busy, thanks for takings sons, and about homework I called teacher to let him know what happened so everything is ok, that's it, bye.
He calls tonight at 7:35pm. I do not answer go outside and do some yard work. I call him back at 8:45pm. He starts in with: HOW COME YOU DON'T TALK TO ME? WHY DO YOU WANT PEOPLE TO DO THINGS YOUR WAY? HOW COME YOU CAN'T DO THINGS MY WAY? HOW COME YOU DIDN'T COME TO MY CAR SUNDAY WHEN I LEFT BOYS TO TALK? YOU ARE SO BUSY TALKING TO OM YOU CAN'T TALK TO ME! WHAT IS THE POINT IN HAVING A PHONE IF YOU DON'T CALL ME TO TALK OR ANSWER MY CALLS? HOW COME YOU FORGOT HOMEWORK!? HOW COME YOU DIDN'T GET HOMEWORK BEFORE COMING TO MEET ME? WHERE WERE YOU LAST NIGHT? HOW COME YOU DIDN'T GO TO WORK TODAY?
I say is this what I'm going to get for calling you...the third degree? I left you a message h regarding the non-returned calls and the son's homework. What else was there for me to say?
He says: YOU KNOW YOU CAN'T JUST SEND THEM OVER HERE HAVING TO DO HOMEWORK WITH NO HEADS UP TO ME! I say well I know that but I forgot the darn stuff and plus i did call you at 3pm to let you...you were not at home until 9pm what was i to do! He said HOW CAN YOU FORGET THE HOMEWORK...YOU HAD 2 HOURS FROM THE TIME YOU CALLED UNTIL YOU MET ME TO REMEMBER IT! He said YOU ARE NOT GOING TO BE GETTING ANYMORE CONVERSATION FROM ME IF YOU KEEP THIS UP! I say what up? Being talked to like a dog by you? You are right I won't be talked to that way! He said I DIDN'T TALK TO YOU LIKE YOU WERE A DOG! YOU NEED TO LISTEN TO ME WHEN I SAY LEAVE! I say well it's hard when you are barking at me, not telling me why I have to leave when I ask, like it is some BIG secret, just saying GO meaner than hell. He said YOU DON'T LISTEN HOW ELSE DO I TELL YOU! I finally say ok so I don't listen, well I can't take back what happened last Tuesday, I'm sorry for not listening but it's done can't go back. He said HMMM. So i begin to make conversation about the boys holey shirts,,,,how they are in good shape except for one hole and he says WELL BY ANOTHER DAMN ONE I DO GIVE YOU SO MUCH MONEY GO GET SOME NEW ONES!!! So I say ok well I guess i have to go...He says OK, I say bye!
Why is it all about him! And what the hell do I do with what he said? It's confusing as hell...first it's go away then it's come here! He said HOW THE HELL DO I KNOW WHAT IS GOING ON IF YOU NEVER CALL ME. Like what do I tell him? Most everything is taboo. I told him how can I tell you what is going on when you only get mad (LIKE THE SHIRTS BEING HOLEY...HE JUMPED MY ASS ABOUT THAT EVEN!!!)? I can't do anything right...I'm just going to mess it up cause you can't tell me WTH to do for you!
I'm so mad I could spit right now! What the hell does he want from me? Or is this in response to him seeing me with the OG? He didn't ask who it was!!!! But gets mad that I have time for OG but don't talk to him? What gives...my h never calls me! Then gets mad cause I pressure him with my calls?!!! How can I win anything here? Or is there something to win? Help me!
Wiley, Flying Free, Holdingon, RMC, what should I do with this info? Do I change tactics???
