Where do I go from here

[Wedge5]

25years, I will try to respond to all of your posts in one reply.
"What did she SAY were the reasons for her wanting out? We're in the dark about what to advise without a lot more info."
Some of the reasons for her wanting out were, that she wasn't happy, she felt taken for granted, and my words were hurtful.

I guess my 180s are to stop pursuing, and use kind, affirming words. My GAL since the divorce, I have bought a 4 wheeler, and gone riding with friends, bought a gun and started poking holes in paper with friends.

I am trying to continue with the affirming words. I bought her a Christmas present that was child related, to show her that I thought she was a great mother, also told her that.

I will reply more later, that is all I've got for now.
Thanks for the help, I'm not very good at this. If I leave something out, please ask and I will try to elaborate. Thanks again.