Yep, I was thinking the same thing. It is so sad that your kids are paying the price in this.
Maybe you can send another note to ex: Look we have two kids that are suffering greatly under the current circumstances. Even though our relationship ended our responsibility to these two great kids did not. We do not have to be friends but we do have to be the adults here and behave as parents.
The kids can not continue to play us off of each other. We have to agree and set boundaries for their poor behavior. It is what any responsible parent would do.
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Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory