I used to love to sing my boys, You Are My Sunshine, because they were. Hope your girls bring you sunshine today.
This is my favorite song to sing to my S!
(((Bklyn))) So sorry that you're going through this!
Did your H say what kind of papers? Don't talk to him or do anything until you get to review the "papers" and think about them. If he tries to contact you, tell him you need time to review it.
I like the idea of telling him that he can't enter into your apartment when he comes to get or drop off the girls.
I also can't understand how your H can use your father as his lawyer. He promised to love you and take care of you - your daddy's girl. Doesn't he have any kind of conscience? He can look into your father's eyes and say "Yep, I screwed up. I failed at taking care of your daughter. I'm walking away from her and from our kids." Sorry, but I feel like we have to answer to our parents/in-laws in some way. He should feel ashamed of what he's doing.
I know how much pain you are in. You are allowed to feel it and don't feel like you have to justify that to anyone.
That said, they are "just papers". It sounds like your H needs something strong to push him one way or another. You said that he hasn't shown any kind of progress since last summer. Maybe he needs to take a little bite of reality.
All is not lost. Don't give up all hope. Do as dark as you can, while allowing him to interact with your D's. Hang in there!
