My Sitch/any better ideas than going dark?

[labug]

Hey Bro, Mnky's bark is much worse than his bite.

Don't mean to bust your chops but

I have been working on myself, and without question I will be successful in my next relationship

I re-read your thread and you've been a raging exposed nerve the whole time. I've no doubt you've been working on yourself but you think think all this:

Then there is me, 37, no kids, successful corporate guy with my own bag of issues. Some being my selfishness and infidelity in my first marriage, my cheating on my second wife while we were dating (I never even looked at another woman during our marriage however). I also have significant self esteem issues that led to a womanizing streak between the marriages that’s really a long story for another forum.

I had an alcohol problem, didn’t drink a lot but when I did I would get plowed and was verbally abusive toward her on a number of occasions.

This whole ordeal consumes me on a daily basis, obviously I constantly think about what she is doing and with whom.

will be better because you've been working on yourself for a few months? I truly believe people can change when they really admit to themselves where their fault lies and work on those things consistently. I've changed but it's taken me a lot longer than 5 months.

About your gorgeous grad student, in your first post you said this:

This is my second marriage, I met her the same month my first divorce was finalized which probably was an issue in and of itself. Beautiful, smart, caring, loving young woman.

Sound familiar.