Waiting for the tides to change - 2

[ces67]

BF - You have every right to be worked up! Hope you work through it quickly. Its good to know how you feel and why. But its also good to move on and not allow yourelf to stay there. I'll throw out my favorite Teddy Roosevelt quote.."If you find yourself going through Hell, keep going."

Not sure if you saw my post last week, but W actually put picture of the OM she was attracted to in a photo collage that is now hanging in our H. Pi$$ed me off royally.

What helped me most was figuring out how to detach. This OM and your OW is not your competition. At best, this OW, is a cheap distraction for your H to avoid dealing with his real issues. Whatever is attractive about this OW is an illusion of what your H thinks will make him happy---and it won't.

I hate for you that you're caught in the crossfire of your H's lack of ability to deal with things. Take care of you and I hope you can detach so you are not trapped by your H's issues.

Rick makes a great point about moving on (trying to follow that advice myself). Let yourself feel the anger. That's the best way to deal with it. And you can deal with it when you're ready.
(((BF))))