From your article, Angel, and yes this has been a biggie for me:
"You stop judging and pointing fingers and you begin to accept people as they are and to overlook their shortcomings and human frailties and in the process, a sense of peace & contentment is born of forgiveness."
Because I was cheated on once, I expected my H to never let me down. I had high expectations of him, to never hurt me, to never make mistakes, to never cause me pain, etc.
Thing is, I'm starting to see that.... he's not my first marriage, or my XH. He's his own person who made mistakes because, he's human.
Oh and I forgot to add up above to my list.... anger and rage. I had a lot of that... a lot! At him, at OW, at all of it... day after day. But it is getting better.... much better.
