so sorry to hear this, but not shocked I guess...don't know about the w's bf texting you to back off...why not call her and ask?
(I mean does the "breaking point' mean breaking your ba!!s is okay too? you DO get to be happy and treated well someday right?)
As Denver says, you have to do something different.
Not sure what that means but I heard the "Power of Now' author talking the other day about bad painful situations we feel "stuck" in. What to do?
He said it so simply yet it still hit me as being profound.
Either you leave the situation, you change it, or you accept it.
If you leave it, so be it. That is one option you have and you at least know SOME things will improve.
If you accept it, it means you accept it with serenity and peace
NOT w/sadness and regret and because YOU FEAR THE ALTERNATIVES...
and then, there is the "changing it" but we know
that only means changing YOUR reaction b/c you are all you control.
At a minimum you have to change how you react to her and IMO...to ME, you seem too accomadating, regardless of her bf's words.
Sure take Denver's advice (i mean that) but when you reassess, if nothing has improved
I suggest you really make a different choice and stop the waiting game.
She is not going to make the move in a healthy way...she wants you to do it.
Life is short and your kids' childhood is passing. Is this what you want them to recall?
Do right by your kids and that's all anyone can ask for.
Do you have a T or a DB coach?
They can be so helpful and specific.
Your wife is stuck and I don't see her getting unstuck...unless you consider breaking down to be that.
But how is what's going on NOW, so great for your kids anyway?
Sending you prayers and best wishes
((( )))
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