Where do I go from here

[25yearsmlc]

OTMT, I'm sorry to hear that. I am trying to be friends for the kids' sake, but I can't right now. My hope is that we will be able to reconcile, and be a couple again, but if we can't I hope to be able to be friends. I believe that the best thing for the kids would for us to be together. The second best thing would be for us to be friends, I think.

this is TRUE^^^ but does not mean you lie or cover up all your pain.
Your kids are watching you and you will model for them how to behave when THEY face a setback or betrayal in life, which they will.

Show them that pain can be bad but not fatal and it will pass for it's not eternal.




I don't really know, I am so confused. Part of me wonders what lesson that teaches the children. That it is okay to divorce as long as it is friendly?


The fact is, your alternatives are worse...

so teach them that their happiness is more important than your pain

or anger or sense of outrage, and that is valuable. Do your best to put them first.



I don't want them to think that. This is so difficult for me...

I get that.

Sorry to hear that.