She's deploying means she's leaving for a while, doesn't it? If it does, her being gone blocks you from building a relationship with her and with others, if you chose to.
As long as you have clearly stated recently that you want a relationship, not a just a friendship, then she knows what to do if she does as well. Holding hands isn't friendship, though. If she want's the milk, she's got to buy the cow (aka you).
sorry I don't agree with this^^^ b/c it's a bonding thing. She didn't use you for sex; she showed affection. Maybe she was probing for an old spark or maybe she was trying to be friends. Don't punish her with distance or coldness,
to confirm to her - there's no reason to even try and rebuild.
Just a thought...if you felt horrible, sounds like you aren't done dealing with the affair and divorce. Maybe get a cousellor while she's gone.
Good luck in whatever you try, Wedge.
What did she SAY were the reasons for her wanting out? We're in the dark about what to advise
without a lot more info.
Can you fill us in on that AND on what, if anything, she said that you agreed you need to work on.
You said you read the Div Remedy book? Okay so what are your 180s and what are you doing to GAL and
be less predicatable to her? it's important you show her some new behaviors. She has to believe marriage to you could be better/ different.
Or she won't return.
What are you DOING -not "saying or promising to do later," but DOING NOW, to demonstrate that you can change?
You are the only one posting her so we can only work on you and
YOU are the ONLY person here that you control. Take back your power and become a man only a fool would leave.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
