Bklyn Queen

[ces67]

[quote=barely floatingyou are an amazing woman.. if your H can't see that, he is definitely the fool. [/quote]

amen....

[labug]

Hey Bklyn,

Hope you don't mind me bringing this over here and I know you were just getting it off your chest but it cracked me up because it's the stuff we'd all like to say but don't because it's not DB.

I know we dont want this to become a b!tch fest but what a jerk your husband is. Why did he bring you some sorry dead flowers??

Your H reminds me of mine. My H is such a wimp. No one really knows how painfully weak my H is except me and his family. Our H want us to do their dirty work, they want to blame us for why the marriage failed rather than admit to themselves that they are the jerks left behind children. They are really wimpy jerks and I am so over them.

It makes me feel better every time I read it! Sometimes you just have to tell it like it is.

Thanks!

[BklynMom]

thank you thank you thank you. For everyones nice words

Labug, just reading my words over again made me laugh too and feel much better. Thanks for posting it over here.

I have refrained from calling my H a wimp on this board cause I think its mean but in all seriousness I think his niceness and holding everything in was/is a huge part of the problem. Is anyone familiar with the book, No more Mr. Nice Guy? I cant get it for my H I know but should I read it??

I likes idea about giving my H till may before I make any decisions and just continue to work on myself until then. The problem being I dont think I can do it. I dont think I can keep my mind clear without more separation from him. This was much easier when he was in Atlanta and I didnt have to deal with him all the time.

I havent got time for the pain....

[labug]

Do a Separation Agreement, go as dark as you can and wait a couple of months. That way you will have no questions in your mind later (or maybe fewer).

You can even say that when he picks up the girls that he doesn't come in the apt.

[BklynMom]

H called at 10:15 to tell me that my father/lawyer would be receiving documents tomorrow.

My heart is broken. This man promised to love and protect me as long as we both shall live. My heart is broken. I have changed myself tremendously since this summer and he just digs his knife deeper. I did not deserve this. I deserved a chance to change. My girls do not deserve this. He is a monster.

Thanks everyone for listening

[labug]

I'm so sorry, sweetie. You're right you deserve something much better and you will get it.

Is there someone you can call so you're not alone tonight?

(((Bklyn)))

[2thepoint]

Bklyn - I know it hurts, deeply. But, remember all those fantastic changes you've been working on? Those are for you to help you through the difficult road you are on. Don't you think it is time you stop giving your H all this emotional power? You really need to start moving forward with your life, with or without your H.

The fact is, he will one day regret his decision. That I guarantee. That may not make you feel any better but it is true. And when that day comes, if he's one lucky dude, you'll still be available. But odds are, some other lucky guy is going to snap you up because you are such a great catch! You know what I'm saying, Bklyn?

Hold your head up and move forward with pride in the knowledge that you did the right thing and it is his loss. And what a big loss it is!

((((((Bklyn)))))

[ces67]

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ditto to all that 2TP said. I'm so sorry you're hurting. Its got to feel like dying embers. Just know & belief something new and wonderful can still grow. You can do this and I believe in you!

[Yasu]

Broklyn Queen,

Play your cards right. All is not lost. You have these lovely girls to focus on. You must research the detachment literature. Your husband is simply yanking the chain that he "himself" installed within you. De-install it. Back off. Go dark. I actually like the fake boyfriend idea. It is not any more fradulent than other DB techniques. Have you looked at Homer's research? I can copy you. Is there some way we can buddy up? Yas

[labug]

Bklyn, how ya doin' this morning.

I used to love to sing my boys, You Are My Sunshine, because they were. Hope your girls bring you sunshine today.