Quote: Normally, I would come over and we'd hang out, I'd spend the night.
Well, of course the first thing should automatically jump out at you would be not to hang out with him and not to spend the night, period. That does infinitely more than anything you say to him. Every time you so much as utter a word about what you need him to do to make the R work right now, the more he will become uneasy around you. Actions speak louder than words Cindy, there are no explanations needed for anything in terms of the R. Just have the kids ready to go, happily send them off, give him a smooch on the cheek, tell them to have a great time and thats it. Then you go out and spend some quality time doing what you enjoy. Thats all you have to do, just try it.
If you continue to psychoanalyze his behavior and responses to this or that, you just won't get anywhere, because you will act out of desperation in an attempt to try and fix the M, rather than letting go of that need acting with confidence, and allowing things to unfold as they will.
Hope you have some fun things planned for yourself this weekend...
