LB - the difficult part is he keeps insisting that there is "nothing wrong" with me, that I'm a great person and that "I would change nothing about the past ten years, except how it's ending" and "it's me with the problems, not you". So, I'm on my own with finding things that need changing. However, that's not to say that I didn't find plenty within myself that I could and have been actively working to change. I realize I had become codependent on him and that I had essentially stopped living my life for me. I began taking steps to GAL on my own before DR and since reading (and rereading) it have continued to do so. I live my life for me daily now (with the occasional backslide) and am much more satisfied doing so. I also realize that I have a very dominating personality and tend to push people without meaning to. I have been really making that one of my 180's - to not be pushy... I'm still working on me daily and finding little things about myself that I can change and improve.
