7 Years in. Time to give up ?

[Yasu]

DavidA,

I have now read this more personal post. And, I am terribly disappointed and disgusted by many of the responses you have received merely because of the length of your trial, and the particular route your MLC X-wife chose to take (which insidently posters, is not atypical for MLC by it's very definitions.

The majority of posts here, including the respective monitor, are totally discouraging. So, when things are not on an up, or the length of time exceed a certain "non-defined" period, then it appears to me, that some poster are suggesting something is wrong with you, David. As well, same posters are adding a guilt complex to your delicate delimma by suggesting you have wrongly influenced your son.

Oh, dear. How I could take everyone of your stocked apart and come to the same conclusion. Did any of you allow your wife or husband to have an affair while you acted "as if" everything was nice-nice? What did you teach you kids in this process? If you practiced this denial technique, you are in no place to judge DavidA, and none of you are in a position to tell him he needs help.

Frankly, I was astounded when I was asked, why would I want my husband with the bad treatment? Like duh. Why are all of us here? Is it because we are reieving stellar treatment? Is MLC a paradise? Did anyone read DavidA's thread on the possible relationships between MLC, Narcissism and Passive-Aggressivism?

There is a thin line between hope and dispair. With some DB/DR techniques, there is a thin lone between hope and denial. Nonetheless, MWD encourages couples, even beyond divorce, as sometimes that is what it will take to wake up an MLC.

I submit to all the 2x4' posters that have ganged up on DavidA's thread here "check themselves" and their early threads. Additionally, the facts surrounding the length of MLC may be a pertinent reference as well.

DavidA, you have had a terrible road, and I commend your fortitude. From what I can see, your wife is repeating her typical pattern, which I wrote about on your other thread. Notice how she always comes back. I want to think about your sitch more, and see if there are other posts. But for now, I had to say my piece above. I want to give you hope - hope for a happier future. You must break the pattern to change it. And at this time, I think the detachment literature would be very helpful to you.

I promise to come back to you with more suggestions, so do not give up on having a good life. By the time you detach, and can see this history in a less emotional way, your perspective and POV regarding your old Wife may reals shift. That is sort of happening to me, if you care to read my drama story under Newcomers, "Separation, Settlement, or Servellience?". Thereto, I responded some morr about your other thread. Yas