My Sitch/any better ideas than going dark?

[Broken74]

Thanks labug, I appreciate your input. You are exactly right, I'm going dark totally, I did the classic things were improving between us and then went overboard mode. I thought doing it up for Valentine's day would give a boost to whatever was going well, and it was until I did something really stupid. I still don't get why she got so spun up about it, unless it makes her feel really bad/guilty. I hope I haven't put the nail in the coffin, I guess only time will tell.

Regarding my new friend, my W certainly seems to not have a problem dating other people. My new friend is in graduate school, no kids, stable, a number of things honestly my W is not. I have been working on myself, and without question I will be successful in my next relationship, be it with my W or without her. Not drinking in and of itself has improved my life dramatically. I am a new man, she just can't open her eyes to see. I'm going to send Grmpy Mnky a PM to see if they would be so kind to provide their .02.

Thanks again labug, tomorrow will day 1 of full no contact, it's going to be hard but as you said I really have no choice now.