Quote: So, you can love him the way he is and accept how he treats you if he comes back, or, you decide that settling for that kind of R, isn't how you want to spend the rest of your life with someone.. The choice is yours
Yet I'm not quite here:
Quote: When you detach to the point where you let go of the need that he is your only choice in terms of a lifelong mate, I think you'll do what you really should do..and thats cut him loose for good and move on if your gut feel tells you he's not going to change the way you prefer him to.
I still think that there is something I haven't tried yet, some way to talk to him, SOMETHING...I'm missing something that will turn this around! This thought is what I need to get rid of....the belief that his difficulties in committing to the r are all about me!!!! I'm almost there cause today I don't feel quite so concerned that he may not come back, a slight squeeze of the heart when I think of him not coming back is all I get now.
This is my plan:
Quote: continue to leave him alone, give him space, work on yourself, stop obsessing, get strong and confident and make yourself a happier person. Those are the kinds of things a WA will notice and perhaps dig a little deeper than they have been if they don't want to lose you...
