Just when I thought the tides were chasing in my direction, I get blind sided. I thought I had my wife agreeing to go see a MC with me, her quote is I don't think it will work for me but what do you want to do, I said i wanted to try and go to marriage counseling, she said ok and she would go, she even texted me and asked if I made the appt. I got her some chocolate covered strawberries and a basic card for Valentine's day, she appreciated it. There emotional attachment from her end.
Event's leading up to this: My wife had a affair 4 yrs ago, we were seperated for 6 weeks then she came back, the usual, she didn't love me thought the grass was greener on the other side, left then realized that I was better, she begged me to take her back and I did, we put what hapened behind us and didn't take much about or go see a C, 1st problem. I have had issues with what happened and after 4 yrs I just didn't care wether she was here or not. Around christmas things got badk and she said she wanted a divorce. I was a little shocked and the more I thought about i realized that I didn't want the divorce and work to correct the way I acted. She had quit talking about the divorce for a few weeks and we communicated better about things, but no pressure about us. I have always had a feeling that there was something else going on. Just the way she acted, well today I find out that she is having a EA with someone she works with, I found the note. He is currently in jail so he sent it from jail. I confronted her about it and she said that it is not a PA. He's been in jail for 6 weeks, she does have feelings for him but not sure of anything else. She still stated she wanted a D. I finally told get the paperwork together and I would fill it out, I'm done tired of feeling like this. She did say that when she left the first she can't be around somebody for too long, she gets tired of them. I said what happened to me then, we made it 12 yrs together, I must have been doing something right. No real answer on that one.
I know the other guy is filling the emotional need that I wasn't, now I just go a different way.
