Grmpy - I totally get what you are saying. As much as I hate to admit it, I too needed this in the worst way. I feel as if I have come miles from where I was when this started. My H and I don't have kids either and I struggle to figure out how to "show" him the changes I've made to bring back "ME". Have you figured out any ideas on that yet? I have managed to use the taxes as a "non-pusuing" way to talk with H and I had the thought that working through some of the D papers (ugh - discovery stuff) would be a good way too. Other than that, I'm out of ideas. I know I can live my life without H and still be happy. I also know, though, that I would like to have him in my life; sharing the journey. I am finally able to acknowledge that this choice has to be his, but like you, I'd like him to spend some time with "me" before he makes his final decision.
Ahh thanks! Just got back from meat and merlot downstairs. Funny, never thought I would find myself defending my W from fiend's bad press!
The merlot was splendid though.
Kd - yeah this happened for a damn good reason. Boy does it ever hurt sometimes though. Without picking up or dropping off kids it I seldom see the wife. I had the dogs last week while she was out of town. She came over here to my apartment (first time)to pick them up on Sunday. That was my first chance to show off the "improved Shiney new Monkey". She wants to get together to sign papers, but I have way too much angst right now to do that. I'm close though. Us non-breeding types gotta be creative...:)
Me: 44 Bomb: 11/27/11 Divorced:6/12 Life goes on: 6/13
