Separation, Settlement, or Servellience?

[Yasu]

Thank you for your kind words BrklnMom! And I appreciate you taking the time to look at my thread. Yes, detachment will be key in this sitch. Also, one really has to be done and finished. That is why so often when the women has reached that point, there is no return. I have been humiliated, and under tremendous stress during a three year+ period. It has been a terrible strain on my health. If I am to be dragged into Court and undergo that Post-Tramatic-Syndrome any more than I already have, he will have demolished any possible hope he could have had. This is a boundary that feels quite natural to me. And I am already planning my life as such, because I will need a room mate for the house.

I have no doubt in my mind that once it is over, he will be knocking at the door. Patterns in human behaviors tend to repeat themselves. I watched him abandon me time and time again for 30 plus years. Last time I did not come running back, and that totally rattled his cage. So, he remains without me. He has something better, well, have a nice life. This is where I am at now BrklynMom.

I will have a look at your thread, and respond if you would like. You cheered me up! Yas