To clarify, I'm not placing the blame for that on anyone, but myself, however, like I've read countless times... D lawyers are not in the business of helping couples R. Also, my lawyer is a friend of the family (as well as being a well known and respected lawyer around here) and I feel now as if maybe he was advising me to do what he thought would be best for me at that time, not what would be best for my M. My mistake is that I was still feeling very shaken and shattered at the time and I made a huge decision while going through that roller-coaster. It had just seemed to me that I had tried EVERYTHING I could to get H to listen to me and consider trying to work on our M instead of walking away from it. In reality, I had probably done nothing more than convince him that he was right in his thinking. Shortly after the new year, I came across DB and DR on Amazon and I ordered them the same day. I am now regretting that I listened to "well-meaning" people in my life who told me that I needed to just file, D, and move on. I know that unless I give this my all, I won't ever feel as if I really tried everything. After reading DB and DR, I really feel as if we might have a chance still and it's hard to explain that to those same well meaning people.
