Bklyn Queen

[2thepoint]

I am still wrestling with packing up his clothes and putting together a more formal custody plan (thks 2tp) but I am afraid. I dont want to push him further away, I want him to come home.

There is nothing that says the custody plan has to be "formal". Pull something together that can be tweaked as needed but get it in writing with copies for both of you.

And I don't think you would be pushing him further away. Remember 25's sitch? Her H abandoned her and the kids for the wilds of Alaska and she filed for a formal/legal separation. Guess what? They eventually got back together.

All I'm saying is that you need to push your H to step up to his responsibilities and you also need some of your own "bklyn time" alone. Make him step up. Be the strong woman and make him step up!

In the next few days I need to discuss our upcoming job sitch with my H and I know he is going to disagree with me. I am afraid to bring it up and stand up for what I think is right cause I know he will get mad at me.

Really?!?! You're afraid he'll get mad at you? Come on, Bklyn! Think about it. Who has a right to be mad? You or your H? Forget his feelings for a moment and focus on you. Get what you need out of this and make your H own this sitch.

My H has not budged one little bit since the day last may when he said ILYBNILWY. I have done some major work on myself but H hasnt even tried one iota to work on it with me. His treatment of us, his family is wrong.

But you're afraid he'll get mad, remember? /sarc

You are right and he is wrong. plain and simple. Do what is right for you and the girls and make him own this sitch he created!

(((((Bklyn)))))