Brand New here, my story, my ?'s

[BeingMe]

Wow, good imagery from your WAW, and I like your response to that. I think M's go through periods where things need a reboot, but both partners need to be on the same screen. I bet you've both been exhausted with twins in the house. If I got it right, you have four daughters ranging from twins2, d4 and d6? That is a lot of work, and not much time for much else. We had a D7 when our twins boy/girl were born, then we had another daughter five years later. All are adults now, thank goodness, although I miss those early days when they were so cute. But, we have 6 grandchildren now, that helps a little re the cuteness factor.

So, the point I'm trying to make, with a lot of words, is that it must be nice for your W to have OM to go to where there aren't all these child issues, and busy-ness of family life, to relax. But, of course, she should've turned to you, and tried to find a way and space that the two of you can relax away from the children.

In the end, the R with OM is unrealistic. She has to work on herself. Yes, she wants to be happy, and the hormones inducing those feelings of infatuation with OM, and idea of what it could be like, will still have one thing in common .... her. And she can't unring the bell on having the family she has with you. It will get even more complicated because I would imagine your daughters will resent this interloper.

You are getting IT ... one just has to be patient, and detached. You responded well when your W asked about your positive attitude. I guess they expect us LBS's to be sad, and upset, and showing that all the time. How narcissistic of them, right?!

Take care and keep up the 'tude.