"was no mention of what I see as the biggest problem from her POV in our R for at least the last 9 or so years which is my stress and anger"

She did mention it. You just don't know how to read it.
You would get mad and she felt this...
"Unloved , unappreciated, hurt, uncared for, disrespected, unwanted "


M-43 W-40
2D - 9 and 5

Emotion, yet peace.
Ignorance, yet knowledge.
Passion, yet serenity.
Chaos, yet harmony.
Death, yet a new life.

RECONCILED AND WISER