Hi l2l, I know how you feel. I was dreading yesterday for a week beforehand. I didn't want it to be a day of pursuing. But I also didn't want it be a day w/o good lessons for the kids. I helped them each make a special valentine for my wife. I was out of town for most of the day, and when i called to talk to the kids, i asked her if she got them and she said yes thank you. When i got home there were some there to me from the kids. So even though I couldn't really express what i wanted to, to my wife, it all still felt ok.
I know how you feel wanting to crawl in the hole, I feel that way a bunch. I reread posts, 37 rules, chapters from Michele's books. That stuff seems to quell the ache in my heart for awhile it seems.