So true, ces, so true. Getting there is hard won but it certainly makes things easier when we drop the "wow, why isn't he acting like a my H?". I think it takes us out of victim mode when we accept that.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss