You are right. We can only come out winners.....either we gain a new m & h or we loose a bad h! Either way the changes we make now in ourselves will be lasting.
When I first realized that my h was most likely not coming back, I almost died. But then gradually over time I saw that it wasn't about me. Yeah, we both contributed to the downfall of the m...the difference was that I saw them and tried (and did change) like hell to change myself and my m. My h just wanted to walk away. Gradually I think he's beginning to see that he can't survive another d but has yet to figure out that to NOT get d he has to change! He thinks by being more outgoing, taking anti-d's (he's not consistent), and being more assertive in the sack is the key. But these are changes for himself, not for me or the m.
I'm going to go on like I'm getting a d. Not date but to have the mentality that h is not going to come back and to plan accordingly.
The buck stops here, Rachel...we ain't getting used no more. We are good women that are trying to be better for our h's and m's. We deserve some decent behaviour from our h's. Just cause we have such a long history with them does not give them the right to ride on those coattails!
I feel like Dolly Parton in the movie 9 to 5! Let's hog tie that man!!!!
