Any thoughts on this guys would really help, bit of an awkward 1!!
My "wife" call me on Saturday asking if I could look after the kids for a few hours 1 night for her while she went out for a meal, no problem, they are my kids and I miss them.
Then it was could I drop them off for her as she was having a few drinks and not driving, yes fine no problem to me.
When I dropped them off OM car was there, kids looked at me, and I knew they felt awkward, but I smiled and got on with things, this is not going to get to me, even though it hurt!!
Anyway moving on, I knew OM was going back away today, and I knew she would be calling me, low and behold, guess who has just called!!!
It is so obvious it laughable, but I don't mention anything, just seem happy and helpful.
So today's problem is our son, he's just sat on his Xbox for hours and she cannot get him to do anything when she asks him to, he's angry and unhelpful, she wants to know if I can sort him out, and have his Xbox at mine, I said thats fine, no problem.
I did point out though that he's on it too much at her house, I didn't mention it but she basically lets him do what he wants when OM is around to keep him quiet, I said I know its hard but you have to be firmer with him and not just let him do what he wants, she agreed and said she has let him get away with things, but would appreciate my help on this, she has tried but thinks he needs his fathers influence more!!!
So because she has caused a situation, she is asking me to get involved and sort things out.
Again I said I would speak to him and try and help, she was all thankful and appreciative.
So, my thoughts are, he's my son, he's my responsibility, but why should I get involved with a situation she has caused because of OM, but I am his dad?
But the comment, he needs his dad?, whats that all about? Of course he needs his dad!!, but she left me and took up with OM!!!!
She has also mentioned in the past few weeks about how she feels under pressure because the kids miss me, and how well we get on. I dropped something off at the house a few days ago and the kids came to my car to see me, my daughter got in and was cuddling me and hugging me, then I saw out of the corner of my eye, my wife, stood in an upstairs window watching us having fun.
I'm going to speak to my son, not give him a hard time, just try and be his dad, and his friend, and try and give him some advice and maybe find out whats going on with him.
I epect the OM situation will be part of it, not sure how I handle that with my "wife" if he brings it up, but I'll just have to see how that plays.
My other thought is, is she trying to use the kids as an excuse for us to try again, without her losing face with friends, family , and OM?
OM has just left, and she calls me, as I have said its so obvious to me, but she is calling me.
I know she has doubts, or is torn about our situtaion, we have spoken about things and what happened, etc
She has also said that she wouldn't do anything to hurt OM, he's a nice guy, it makes sense to me that IF she was even thinking about trying again, using the kids as a reason really helps.
I have nothing to base any of this on, other than the conversations we have had about us recently, and that anytime OM is not around, she finds a reason to call me, when he is around, nothing!!!
I smile about it now, no use getting upset about whats going on, I'm happy, in a good place, but I do miss my wife and family.
