Just had my bedtime talk with the boys.... hearing S6 say olive you and happy valentines, was just what I needed
I talked to H for a few seconds... He seems to never have an interest I talking to me (and it doesn't help that he's always just leaving OW's house- do he's been in his fantasy world for a while.)
No mention of V-Day at all. Really sad that someone can emotionally have no connection to someone they've shared a life with for 10 years.... The WAS's heart must be made of stone.
M-31, H-31 T-9, M-7 S-6, s-20mth sep 8/1/11 ILYNILWY 11/29/11 Creating separation papers. Discover H has feelings for BFF, she does too 1/11/12 H moves out 1.20.12
I agree on the heart of stone. It's almost like a little switch flips and they forget every connection they ever had to us and all of the good in our pasts!
Finally, this day is coming to an end!! Next year, hoping we will all have better V-day's no matter what happens in out sitches!!
I think everyone of the WAS's has thought about their LBS in some way, shape, or form today. Whether it is good, bad, or ugly they just can't completely escape us, no matter how hard they try!! Guess the joke is on them!!
Me31 H33 M11 T15 S10, D4 H deploys 01/11 H R&R two weeks 10/11 ILYBNILWY/sep 12/11 homecoming 1/12 pos D 1/13
Hey P, glad your day wrapped up with a fun talk with the boys. Don't let the non-talking H bug you too much. Even if he's not showing it, he's gotta be struggling in some way shape or form. I think the WAS have had more time learning to "act" than us LBS's so they've got a head start on us there.
Any big plans to wrap up the trip?
Me:45, W:45 S:16 D:13 M:22, T:25 Bomb: July 2010 Putting finances in order for "D" Continue to live in same home-separate rooms
Just had my bedtime talk with the boys.... hearing S6 say olive you and happy valentines, was just what I needed
This is wwesome
I am glad your day ended well. And the best part, it's over and tomorrow you have an opportunity to make it a great non-Valentine's day for yourself and with your kids.
((((hugs!))))
Me & H: 44 D7, D6, S3 Together: 20y, M: 17y EA: 11/13/10, Sep: 12/23/10 EA becomes PA: Spring 2011 H filed for D: 09/06/12 D Negotiating began 2/15 OW seemingly gone on 3/15 Still negotiating D
Pur, don't let it get to you. You CAN BE SURE he has not forgotten and I am SURE (without even ever meeting him) that you were on his mind connected to V-Day more than once today.
I think a day like V-Day puts pressure even on a healthy R/M. So one that is going through a difficult time probably feels that pressure ten-fold I'd imagine.
--------- Leaving my parents house today to go visit one of my oldest friends and her parents. A little background: Her dad worked with my dad when I was 9 and she was 6. The families did everything together, so she was like my little sister. Her dad retired and became a full time Bishop of his church. He married H and I and baptized both of my boys... there's a lot of history and closeness between her parents and I. I've often thought of him as my personal connection to God.
After reading 2thepoint's post this morning... I started to think about how God is directing my life right now. Maybe all the 'fights' I feel like I've been having are because I haven't given into His will. I can't help but think that there's a reason that I had scheduled my visit to this family at the end of my trip because I've been questioning everything in my life and I need some direct guidance right now. We'll see what magic words he has for me.
On the road again... for 6 hours, UGGGGHHHH! Check in with y'all later today!
M-31, H-31 T-9, M-7 S-6, s-20mth sep 8/1/11 ILYNILWY 11/29/11 Creating separation papers. Discover H has feelings for BFF, she does too 1/11/12 H moves out 1.20.12
Drive safely Purg. Can't wait to hear what friend's father has to say. I find that part of this journey particularly compelling since my sitch has brought me closer to the Big Guy (or Gal).
Heart of Stone? Yeah, tell me about it...that is perhaps the most surreal thing about the sitch.
Me: 44 Bomb: 11/27/11 Divorced:6/12 Life goes on: 6/13
Ok, so when your check engine light comes on as your about to leave town... Can't be a good thing
I'm sitting at the body shop to see what's wrong... So I'm gonna check in with a few of you while I wait
M-31, H-31 T-9, M-7 S-6, s-20mth sep 8/1/11 ILYNILWY 11/29/11 Creating separation papers. Discover H has feelings for BFF, she does too 1/11/12 H moves out 1.20.12
