Snowman, I definitely don't think that should be used as an excuse. We treat marriage and bringing up children far too cavalierly. But if it's inevitable that the D is going to happen it does no good to beat yourself up. You've given it your best shot.
There is nothing like the sound of a 2 yr old laughing.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss