Wife of 6-Years is Divorcing Me pt. 6

[25yearsmlc]

as the w of an MD who put him through ALL THE FUN TIMES, I'm pleasantly surprised, and a bit disbelieving of their new hourly limit. My h still works hours longer than that and he's out of training...

I hate giving legal advice so I'm not--

but I'm GUESSING your L will say to File asap so your state has jurisdiction...

or else SC gets to decide all this stuff...As of now, you and son are NOT in SC so what's the delay in you taking legal action? The woman is telling you shes' taking your son away from you...period. Act now.

ALso--- she sure talks a good game of getting it all, but I don't buy it. It's still about SON'S interest and not her income....And you are the primary caregiver, or more of one than her.

So her emphasis on the "stable job" is wholly misplaced. I'd be VERY surprised if holding a stable job means - SHE GETS CUSTODY..no it means SHE PAYS YOU to care for son...sheesh...

and btw, does her residency have her do ANY CALL? B /c I think they all do.

Where will son go at 2 am? Gee...

Maybe the daycare is open 24/7... that sounds great for son. Super fun...


IMO, you need to go get custody...not saying that as a L, but as your DB friend.

Hey MK, fancy seeing you here after such a long time! I caught up a little with your thread. It's so hard to be positive when the other spouse just isn't seeing the changes THEY need to make, just as much as you do.

UPDATE 6pm
I'm very frustrated today. Not because my car's transmission broke for good. Not because I have to spend unnecessary cash on another car. My wife approached me to talk and our conversation was something like follows:

W: So you know that I got Spartasburg for my residency. Yadda yadda yadda.
M: Are you happy with it?
W: Yeah, I would've like Salinas (California), but Spartasburg is a 600-bed facility...yadda yadda yadda.
W: I just want you to know that I'm taking E (our son) with me to SC. We will be moving in June. You are more than welcomed to move there, or you can chose to stay, or move back to Malaysia, since you have a hard time with work. It's up to you.
M: I'd like E to be close to me. I'm not moving back to Malaysia. No way.
W: Well, I'm taking him with me. Under the new limited work hours law, we're not allowed to work more than 50 hours a week. The hospital also has daycare - it's ranked number #2 in the state of SC. So you can file what you want with your lawyers, but I can provide the judge with all the necessary reasons that will favor me.
W: [As she walks to her car and closes her door] You can't even hold a job, and I can prove that I have a stable one.

I don't know what to think now. I mean, I know what I must do, but what the heck? How is she so smug and self-confident? I bet when you read through the conversation, you can sense the immense self-confidence that she will win custody of our son, no matter what. How can one earn respect when she has none to give and because she (as a doctor with type-A personality and history of parental emotional incest) automatically demands respect wherever she goes.


Not sure what the emotional incest is all about but that smugness is her senior year of med school talking. Her humility comes soon...like by autumn of her first year when she realizes she knows NOTHING about practicing medicine on real people b/c people are not like the pictures in the books when they are your patients AND the staff is not so kind either.

They remember the "hard residencies" THEY had, and her relatively easy hours...being a single parent won't impress them. (They may be wary of working with her)

& though I don't wish this on her or anyone, when one of her patients crashes, she won't be so smug. It's VERY Humbling for all but the most narcisstic of people...so I guess we'll see.

Make your L appointment asap (and see if she can buy you a new trans)....

Imo, she will NOT see you differently until another 6 months or year passes, if then.

I can't promise EVER but from her tone, it'll take her a few notches of the real world experience, AND you getting son for her to wake the heck up. If then. Meanwhile YOU will be moving on in your new life with son, and letting him visit his out of state for her stable job, Mom...

Good luck Alamo, don't give up. This is the time you STAND UP for your son and that's all there is to it.

And don't buy into the "you're welcome to move there" crap. Who says she'll give you any custody then? I don't buy it and I don't believe her.

Don't give away your power. You have more power, ATM, than you realize. Don't waste it.


I hate to say it but I've never felt Satan's presence so strongly between us. Did I already ask y'all to pray for me?

You have our prayers...and so does your son. Pray to God, and don't focus on the Enemy. It plays into it. Turn to YOUR Savior and let HIM handle things for you.

make sense?