What am I doing wrong? and new plan

[Wedge5]

I haven’t been to these forums for quite a long time, but am having a really difficult time lately, so I decided to come back for some help and support.

Ok, today had to go to an appt for my son at a doctor that is about an hour's drive away. Decided to drive separate from my ex-wife. On way there, caught up to ex on highway and noticed her swerve several times, she has been known to text while driving. After the appt, I asked her to roll the window down, and I asked her to please not text and drive while the kids were with her. She angrily turned away from me, rolled the window up, and drove away. She sent a text a few minutes later, saying that was something that shouldn't be discussed in front of the kids, and she added that she didn't text that while driving. I don't understand what I did wrong.

She asked if I would like to join her and the kids for dinner, and I politely refused. I have accepted the offer in the past, but always felt terrible after leaving. So, I decided that I would not do it anymore.

My new plan is to go back to counseling; it has been about a month since I last went. I know that there is a lot that I still need to work on. I am going to “go dark”, as much as possible. I will only discuss things that have to do with our children, and nothing else. I will make exchanges with the children as fast as possible, but not act inappropriately. I have made an appt to talk with a priest. I need to find a way to fix me before I can try to fix my broken relationship. I hope to find a way to fix it, but I also need to find a way to move on if I am unable to fix it.