Hey MK, fancy seeing you here after such a long time! I caught up a little with your thread. It's so hard to be positive when the other spouse just isn't seeing the changes THEY need to make, just as much as you do.
UPDATE 6pm I'm very frustrated today. Not because my car's transmission broke for good. Not because I have to spend unnecessary cash on another car. My wife approached me to talk and our conversation was something like follows:
W: So you know that I got Spartasburg for my residency. Yadda yadda yadda. M: Are you happy with it? W: Yeah, I would've like Salinas (California), but Spartasburg is a 600-bed facility...yadda yadda yadda. W: I just want you to know that I'm taking E (our son) with me to SC. We will be moving in June. You are more than welcomed to move there, or you can chose to stay, or move back to Malaysia, since you have a hard time with work. It's up to you. M: I'd like E to be close to me. I'm not moving back to Malaysia. No way. W: Well, I'm taking him with me. Under the new limited work hours law, we're not allowed to work more than 50 hours a week. The hospital also has daycare - it's ranked number #2 in the state of SC. So you can file what you want with your lawyers, but I can provide the judge with all the necessary reasons that will favor me. W: [As she walks to her car and closes her door] You can't even hold a job, and I can prove that I have a stable one.
I don't know what to think now. I mean, I know what I must do, but what the heck? How is she so smug and self-confident? I bet when you read through the conversation, you can sense the immense self-confidence that she will win custody of our son, no matter what. How can one earn respect when she has none to give and because she (as a doctor with type-A personality and history of parental emotional incest) automatically demands respect wherever she goes.
I hate to say it but I've never felt Satan's presence so strongly between us. Did I already ask y'all to pray for me?
