Going back to your earlier post shows that even after all of your "reading" you still don't understand your W.
"she got hit on last night by a very drunk bloke and had to be rescued by one of her friends, but she said she thought it was best she told me.
Anyway I got visably upset/angry about this"
She was respectful enough of you to tell you this. To open herself up to you and you got mad. You were tested and failed.
"I'm not convinced I am selfish in the whole scheme of things infact scratch that, I wasn't selfish in our M. "
Hmmm didn't you just say this in an earlier post?....
"I've been negative and critical, unsupportive, neglected her, being withdrawn and just thought that paying the bills and putting food on the table was enough for a H."
Sounds pretty selfish to me.
You seem to talk about yourself alot. About YOUR feelings and how much work YOU've done. But you still haven't scratched the surface of what got you here...what YOUR WIFE feels. Learn and be compassionate and understanding about how she feels and you'll actually start learning.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
