I know,I have heard that before,I was sleeping on the couch for awhile and she stayed in the bedroom,but through advice that I got here I moved back into the bedroom and let her do what she she wanted,she turned our office into a bedroom and has been sleeping there ever since.
The main reason I would consider leaving is that I do not want all the expense or upkeep that comes with this house if she moves out,we currently share the expenses.
It would be cheaper for me to have my own small apartment than paying what I am paying here.
She makes quiet a bit more money than me and that has always bugged me a little,she does not or has not needed me financially.
It's hard to know what to do,I do still love her and do not want the divorce but know that she is going to do what she is going to do and all I can control is how I act and react.
My son is my biggest concern in all of this,he is 16 and a great kid,he obviously knows things have not been good between his mom and me but he also knows that we are not divorced and I know he holds out hope that we will work things out,he also knows that I do want to work on reconciliation and his mom has shown zero interest in that.
Married 28 yrs Seperated 6 mths Rec D Papers 11/24 W Canceled D Moved Back Home 3/1/08 2 Kids D23 and S16 Trying 2 Put R Back Together