Hey Cindy!! Finally catching up on latest events around here.
Thought of the moment - could some of the problems be that you're pursuing him? Remember the dynamics of that? The more you chase, the more he runs. Just a thought, maybe it'll help you finetune your strategy.
As for your plans for the new year, sounds good!! I would suggest maybe asking if your H wants to do something with you - maybe the sports activity? Something the two of y'all can do outside the house. Just remember, no expectations - it's something you're going to do anyways, you're inviting him just in case he's interested.
