Wife in "D - Freight Train Mode"

[workinghardguy]

Yep, it would be pursuing. A box of chocolates on V-Day... that's something people in love with each other do.

I'm doing nothing today. I brought home heart-shaped gobstoppers last night, but part of that was because she mentioned a few days earlier if I was in the city and buying some for me could I get some for her. There was no presentation, no "gifting"... just the candy in the Farm n Fleet bag left on her bed. I guess I could've asked for $4 reimbursement.

My W has said something to the effect of "since I don't have a valentine" or "since I'm my own valentine" enough times over the past few weeks that I sort of want to puke. But I saw it as a not-so-subtle reminder not to pursue and make her feel guilty. I wasn't going to anyway, but it made it clearer for me.

Just let the day go. It's another day. Let her be with herself on the day and you with yourself.

And yes... dropping them by when she's not there is creepy. It also says that you didn't think she'd react well to it if you did when she was there so you took the easy route. If you don't think she'll react well, then just don't do it. The only difference with dropping them by when she's not there is you don't have to see her reaction, and can instead make one up in your head that's more pleasant.